derek bobo: first you must become

Most people fail before they begin. This is true for a lot of reasons, but in general it comes down to the fact that most people want the rewards but are unwilling to do the work. We're a society obsessed with get rich quick schemes or believe that there is a magic pill that will solve our problems. The sad reality is that it just isn't true. The solution is simple... it's not easy, but it is simple.

Before you start worrying about the rewards you have to become a new person. Until you have made the commitment, to truly change who you are, there really isn't any point in starting. Take fitness for example. Most people think they can do whatever they want and then work hard for a few months and get shredded like a bodybuilder. They start out strong and lose steam because they've approached it from the wrong angle. They get discouraged and start making excuses.

"Well, I had a vacation and it messed up my program."

"I've just been really busy at work."

"My group exercise class got cancelled."

"My workout partner got sick."

These people haven't made the commitment. They're still unfit at their core so there is no way they can become fit on the outside. The person who is fit at the core puts their goals first and makes the rest of the world take a back seat. They don't tie their success to what other people are doing and they certainly don't make excuses for their actions. When life gets hard they do it anyway.

Bodybuilders get those results because they made fitness a part of who they are, not just something that they do. It's an important distinction to make. The decisions they make are all focused around that lifestyle. It means they consistently eat clean, they work hard in the gym, they get adequate rest, they surrounded themselves with a support system (or eliminate those who are not supportive), and they do the work regardless of what else is going on in their lives.

Do you see the difference? It's not about having or getting something. It's about becoming something. I'd encourage you to take a hard look in the mirror and apply this to your life. Are you wanting or hoping for changes and good fortune or have you started a journey to change who you are? Only when you make this commitment will you start to reap the rewards. Until then you don't deserve it.


28 First you must become
04 One Foot in Front of the Other
21 The Zen Master
08 Those You Spend Your Time With
19 You're Probably a Prepper
12 Anger Management
04 All About Choices
02 What I Know About Being a Dad (so far)
01 The Dalia Lama on Humanity
30 Time to Reflect
28 The Leeches Must Go
26 Take a Moment to Appreciate
26 A Matter of Perspective
19 The New Rich
17 The Story of the Mexican Fisherman
15 What's on your List
14 The Most Precious Resource
13 Three Things to be Happy
11 The Joneses
07 Be Intentional