derek bobo: a matter of perspective

There are a lot of things that are out of our control. There are also a lot of things that are in our control. It's important to be able to differentiate between the two. I can talk at length on this topic, and probably will in future posts, but today I just want to talk about one thing. Perspective.

Whether we can control our circumstances or not is irrelevant when talking about perspective. We can always control our perspective. Our perspective has the single biggest impact to our happiness in any situation.

I was talking to a friend this morning about decorating for Christmas. He was telling me about how much he was dreading getting the decorations out. He said the whole exercise seemed a waste of time and he felt as though he was putting them up no sooner than he got them out. His perspective was that the event is a hassle and as a result that's exactly what he'll get. If he changed his perspective that it was going to be a fun family activity or something to build tradition around and celebrate he could have a much different experience. The situation is no different. What's different is a matter of perspective.

There are so many things that fall into this category. I mean you can look at working out as a miserable experience or you can look at it as an opportunity to unwind or blow off steam. You can look at cooking dinners as a chore or an opportunity to learn new recipes and have more meaningful time with your family. You can look at the long commute as a waste of time during your day or you can look at it as a way to leave the worries of work at the office and transition to engaging in more meaningful opportunities when you get home. The key here is that it's your choice. Your perspective is often going to determine how much you enjoy or loathe a situation.

I know it's easier said than done, but I find this liberating. It's just another tool in the toolkit that allows you to focus on the things that are most important and enjoy a happier and more meaningful life.

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